Babywearing with a Newborn – Having a Sling Consultation

We started wearing Talitha in a stretchy wrap when she was four-weeks-old. Ophelia was in it at fourteen hours.

We knew that babywearing would play a big part in our parenting style this time around. It made life much easier with Talitha and it does such good things for babies to be held closely and carried – a lot!

I’d had a free consultation off Katie from Carry Me Slings on toddler wearingover a year ago, back when she was finishing her babywearing consultant training. I was keen to have a paid session with her to explore all our options for wearing our newborn.

Katie from Carry Me Slings - Bristol babywearing consultant.jpg

First off, we talked about the question that so often comes up with newborn babywearing – legs in or out? I’ve heard the case argued both ways.

Talitha always seemed uncomfortable with legs in so it was obvious that she needed them out. I’d been trying both with Ophelia and just couldn’t get both of us happy with her legs out. It seemed instinctive to have them in.

Katie reassured me that every baby is different and that it would become apparent to me when it was time to get her feet out. That makes sense to me. Ophelia does tend to curl right up when asleep on you, whereas Talitha was always kind of sprawled.

We then went through the different types of slings. We started with the stretchy wrap (the Close carrier is an easy alternative for those who want a stretchy wrap without having to wrap but I didn’t look at it because I knew I wouldn’t be buying one).

Stretchy wrap

I’d been wearing my Moby but not finding it as comfortable as I remembered. As it turned out, I wasn’t tying it nearly tight enough, which is funny because I’m always telling other people that they need to tie it tighter than they think! I still think it’s such a lovely, snug option for a newborn.

We also looked at a wrap conversion ring sling (my current favourite for ease though I’d have struggled with it as a first-timer, I think), a Podaegi (we agreed that I might find this more useful later on when I’m ready to put her on my back), a Kenyan khanga (I’m leaning towards leaving this one for later on too) and a woven wrap.

All of those are in my current tiny stash. I downsized to fund Christmas and am trying to convince Laurence that I need to buy a baby-sized soft structured carrier….and maybe a few other slings…

He asked about soft structured carriers as he loves the ease of buckles and finds them the most comfortable option. Katie actually explained how we might adapt our toddler carrier for a newborn. I’m intrigued and well up for giving it a go soon. I doubt Talitha will be much impressed though!

Toddler babywearing.jpg

It’s so lovely to be carrying a sleeping newborn again. I think I forgot how much good it does a mama too.


  1. March 19, 2014 / 11:10 pm

    There isn’t many sounds more wonderful than your baby hedgehog snuffling on your chest as you go about your day. I miss it now that my youngest has progressed to full body snores.
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  2. Samera
    March 20, 2014 / 5:35 am

    Do you have any recommendations for baby wraps/ slings/ carriers etc that are good for (excruciatingly) hot weather? I’m using the moby wrap at the moment with Ali which is nice but the mass of tight fabric is causing us both to sweat and the weather will only get hotter here.

    • March 20, 2014 / 5:55 am

      I can imagine! The Moby can be hot in UK let alone where you are! You’ll be boiling! An African khanga is a good option for hot weather. You don’t necessarily have to tie it their style either. You could tie a slip knot and wear it “rebozo”. I’ll send you an email about this because I could send you one if you want to try it.

      Other option is a Connecta solarweave but you might still need to be in air conditioning to find this totally comfy.

      You want him to be wearing only what he needs (very little if possible). Have you any idea how people traditionally carried their babies in the desert? That’ll give a good insight into what you could try.

  3. March 20, 2014 / 8:27 am

    A sling consultation is a great idea. It took me ages to find the right one and I wasted so much money over the years. When I had my fourth child people had donated some to the local healh centre so new mums could “try before they buy”. Love the photos, enjoy your baby wearing days xxx
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    • March 23, 2014 / 11:24 pm

      I think a lot of people can identify with having gone through a few and not found one that stuck. So good to try before you buy.

  4. March 20, 2014 / 10:44 am

    I cannot tell you how broody the sight of newborns in slings makes me. I loved the sleepy wrap days, they were just so perfect. x
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  5. March 20, 2014 / 1:55 pm

    Ah this is such a good idea! I would defo go for something like this with (future) baby no2 as I do find the amount of different ones quite bewildering, I have to admit!

  6. March 20, 2014 / 1:57 pm

    Oh how I miss a newborn in a sling!! I loved loved loved wearing all three of mine!
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  7. March 20, 2014 / 2:10 pm

    if i was to ever have a child, i would absolutely use a sling. they just seem to offer SO many advantages! the idea of a consulation is good, especially for a first baby, or if you’ve not used one before. lovely pictures by the way! 🙂
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    • March 23, 2014 / 11:26 pm

      There are SO many advantages. I think it’s such a great gift for parents who haven’t used slings before too.

  8. March 20, 2014 / 7:21 pm

    I can’t believe how many options there are! I wish I’d had a consultation really and been more prepared. I feel sad that I might not ever wear a tiny snuggly baby on my front again, it even makes me a tiny bit broody, not badly enough to have a third baby though, yet 😉 x
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  9. March 21, 2014 / 12:17 am

    Oh wow I think having a consultation is a great idea. I wore Mr A but never felt like I really had the right sling for my size (just under 5ft) and really struggled when he got to around 2 years old and even though I persevered I would love to have some clear advice from someone in the know next time

    Laura x
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    • March 23, 2014 / 11:27 pm

      Amazing that you persevered even though it didn’t feel quite right. Sounds like a consultation would do you good.

    • March 23, 2014 / 11:28 pm

      Exactly! It’s a totally different experience carrying this one. Amazing how different they are!

  10. March 21, 2014 / 9:58 am

    I would have never thought of having a consultation, I think it’s a great idea as there as so many out there I got a bit confused the first time round! I loved our Kari Me 🙂 xx
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    • March 23, 2014 / 11:29 pm

      Yeah, I think a lot of people get put off by all the options then end up with something they don’t really like in the long run! Kari Me’s are lovely. All stretchies are. 🙂

  11. March 22, 2014 / 9:00 am

    I would have loved this. I found some of the slings really difficult to put on when I was looking so immediately discounted them, I’m sure having someone talk through the options would have helped so much. Your photos are adorable!!

    • March 23, 2014 / 11:30 pm

      I think that happens to quite a few people, actually. You don’t need extra faffing about with a new baby, really!

  12. March 23, 2014 / 9:48 pm

    I knew about sling libraries, but I didn’t know you can get a consultation in your own home, that sounds brilliant. Much needed for when the little one arrives in May as we never got the hang of my stretchy and ring slings and only really got into babywearing once the Boo was big enough for the Ergo and there’s someone who does a consultation a couple of miles away from me. Bonus.

  13. March 24, 2014 / 9:16 am

    Really lovely blog always enjoy going out to consultations, glad you got lots from it 🙂

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