Dear children

Dear children,

May the times I am serene outweigh the times I get stressed.

I pray that you remember my patience and sense of humour more than my melodramatic huff.

May the silly power struggles over selective eating and my disproportionate anxiety over your bordering on bizarre diet pale next to memories of us peeling carrots together, “painting” chicken and chowing down on hearty roasts together.

I hope you’ll remember our snuggles on the sofa more than our rushing around to get anywhere vaguely on time.

I do hate that you now ask “Are we late?” almost as a reflex.

I want you to look back and see a history populated with books we read together, rather than too many “Let me finish this first” moments.

I would really rather you remember the places we go when we get there, over the unrepeatable words I mutter when I’m lost or finding the new skill of driving a bit too much.

I’d love it if, in the balance of things, you see more paintings that were enjoyed and less worry over messes accidentally made.

I want you to know that you had a mother who was present.

I want to know that I was.


7 Comments

  1. November 28, 2014 / 7:07 pm

    Great post Adele – think it’s something we all wish for. I try to say yes instead of ‘in a minute’ or ‘when I’ve done this’
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  2. November 29, 2014 / 12:09 am

    That’s a lovely postand I feel rather guilty as this week has been a lot about the hang ins and wait a minute it hurry up. It’s such a struggle trying to juggle so much. Fingers crossed he remembers all the hugs and kisses.
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  3. November 29, 2014 / 1:00 am

    As always such a well written little post – I know just what you mean about those “I just need to finish this first” moments and I too hope that memories are made up of the times that are good, crafting, outdoors and having fun

    Laura x
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  4. November 29, 2014 / 10:59 am

    This is a beautiful post and one that I wholeheartedly empathise with. I really hope for all of the things you do and even if we don’t get it right all the time I truly believe our children know they are loved and that’s all it boils down to in the end xxx
    Kathryn (@KatGotTheCream) recently posted..The Happy list #79

  5. November 30, 2014 / 9:41 am

    This post is so lovely and something that I really hope too. Sometimes it’s so hard not to be impatient or get stressed, I can’t stop it but at least being aware and apologising afterwards shows that we are human! I think being sorry is the most important thing x

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